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Have you found the one?

I’ve had failed relationships, went to different places, and tried social dating sites not knowing I would find my destiny in the most unexpected way, in the women’s cubicle. It was that day when all I wanted was to go by human nature, when I found this paper bag with a slice of pizza inside from the guy who I never knew would be the one. The rest is history.

Just kidding!!!! The paper bag with the slice of pizza is real though. Found it few days ago. It was so hilarious that I had to take a photo of it.

Translation of the note: “Hi. I hope you are finally the one who will have my heart. Destiny will bring us closer. This pizza is for you. – P.C. (his cell number). 25, M, Quezon city.”

I didn’t take the bag nor did I contact the number and I don’t know if someone accepted this offer. This however made me think how unconventional some love stories can be. Some people may find “the one” through friends or relatives, in social dating sites, in school, at a volunteer work, at the church, while on travel, at a restaurant, at work, at a concert, etc.

Every time, I fall for someone, I always ask “Is he the one for me?” but so far, the answer has been no.

I met my first boyfriend in school during the time when I was head-over-heels with another guy. I met him when I visited my classmate. He was nice and offered to help me with projects when he learned I am at the Computer Engineering department. At that time I didn’t know he meant to offer help with programming but I asked for his help with an English project. Hah! Relationship lasted for quite a while but yes, he’s not the one.

Few months from our breakup, I stuck myself at home.When I finally decided I want to move on, I sang my heart out. I went from one karaoke bar to another with people from different walks of life. This is when I met the second guy. Not much to tell about him except that he never made effort to see me. Definitely not the one.

When I finally decided I want to take a rest and be single, I never knew I would meet the third guy during the time when I just wanted to spend my weekends in front of a computer. This was the most circus-like relationship I  ever had. It was a long and miserable story but I’m glad it is over and that he is not the one.

I met other guys who I wanted to be with but for several different reasons, never made it to the “in a relationship” stage. It took a solo out-of-town vacation to mend my broken heart from all these failed attempts to forever. I was happy and content with being on my own when I caught my fourth guy’s attention. I was not feeling good that day and went to the clinic when he saw me. He didn’t take my name or my number though and I didn’t even notice his existence.

One day, my make-up artist friend needed photos for her site. The plan for a wedding look beauty shot ended with wedding day shots. It was meant to be solo shots but they decided to include a groom for me. I didn’t like the guy they paired me up with but on the day of the shoot, I didn’t know we would get along just fine. So yeah, I met guy number four wearing a wedding dress and him as my groom. Sadly, this fairy tale like love story didn’t last. Took a while before we both realized we’re not meant for each other no matter how hard we both try. He’s the best guy I’ve ever had so far which sometimes make me ask why he wasn’t the one.

I opened up myself to a variety of possibilities, but to this date, haven’t found Mr. Right. I may or may not find the one for me but the journey shouldn’t stop here.

So, have you found “the one?”

 

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Is it “Theresa” or “Tet?”

If I look it up online , the given name Theresa dates back to 4th century Spain and Portugal. No certain meaning but it can mean “summer” or “to harvest.” How nice to know the meaning behind my name but oddly enough that the bearer lives her life in a different way.

“From the Spanish and Portuguese name Teresa. It was first recorded as Therasia, being borne by the Spanish wife of Saint Paulinus of Nola in the 4th century. The meaning is uncertain, but it could be derived from Greek θερος (theros) “summer”, from Greek θεριζω (therizo) “to harvest”, or from the name of the Greek island of Therasia (the western island of Santorini).The name was mainly confined to Spain and Portugal during the Middle Ages. After the 16th century it was spread to other parts of the Christian world, due to the fame of the Spanish nun and reformer Saint Teresa of Ávila. Another famous bearer was the Austrian Habsburg queen Maria Theresa (1717-1780), who inherited the domains of her father, the Holy Roman Emperor Charles VI, beginning the War of the Austrian Succession.” Source: http://www.behindthename.com/name/theresa

I never thought about looking up the meaning of my name until now that I decided to write my first blog. All I know was, my father wanted to have daughters and name them after the Guy and Pip doll, “Maria Leonora Therresa.” I was supposed to be Maria Therresa but due to some clerical error (I think), it became Ma. Theresa on my birth certificate. I don’t really know what happened but I sure do remember my mom teaching me how to write my name as the previous one but corrected it later on to what it is now (tells me something went wrong).

Unfortunately, my father’s wish didn’t come true. He was late at the hospital when my younger sister was born. By the time he came, they already registered her under a totally different name.

It’s nice to know that I bring with me a name that’s meant to give energy, light, bounty, smile, happiness, and blossom. However, as I grew older, I used this name more rarely.

My family gave me the nickname “Matet” when I was a little kid. It was because of Matet De Leon’s (Nora Aunor’s daughter) popularity at that time. I was “Theresa” in school and didn’t really want anyone there calling me by my nickname. It wasn’t until College when I didn’t care anymore. However, my friends would rather shorten my nickname to “Tet.” I thought, “well…. I like it better than Matet or Theresa.” Since then, I have been introducing myself as such. I looked it up just now. According to Merriam-Webster, Tet is the Vietnamese New Year observed during the first several days of the lunar calendar beginning at the second new moon after the winter solstice. Again! Sounds fun! Festivity!

So should you call me “Theresa” or “Tet?”

At the office, you would notice me introducing myself to a Filipino as Tet. It must be the Filipino culture that we feel closer to another person when they call us by our nickname. With our clients, I usually prefer introducing myself as “Theresa.” Not because I don’t want to build rapport with them (of course I do!). I just happen to learn that it is much easier for them to understand. I remember one time when I said “Hi this is Tet” and they started to wonder what I just said. HAHA! I heard a hint of laughter from one of our American partner, who knows me personally, as she corrected what my name is. Since then I have been introducing myself as Theresa when I’m talking to a non-Filipino unless they’ll be able to read my nickname somewhere.

Either Theresa or Tet, I am happy to know that my name means much more than how I used to see life.